class of 2000.




The other day, one of my best friends asked me a question: Are you going to the reunion this year? She was referring to our ten-year high school reunion. I immediately responded with a resounding and firm, "No. Absolutely not." No, I did not have a traumatizing experience at the all-girls' Catholic high school I went to. In fact, I truly enjoyed it. I liked being in a single-sex environment where I felt like I could be myself without trying too hard for the boys. I felt like my education was as strong as it was because I could concentrate on my studies without distractions. Given the option to send my future children to single-sex schools, I would do so in a heartbeat.

So why the cold shoulder?

The reason is simple. I keep in touch with two of the (only) sixty-seven girls I graduated with. Those two are so near and dear to my heart and I have a feeling, always will be. The rest have gone on with their lives (as I have with mine) and I have not been curious to know about how they're doing. I don't wish them any ill will. I'm glad they are all (seemingly) well. I just can't justify spending $70 for dinner at a restaurant that I'm not particularly a fan of and a game of "catch-up" that really will not matter to me. It just seems like a waste of time and energy. On top of that, rumor is, we are supposed to do a photo montage (yuck): find a photo from high school and one from now, write a 200-word blurb on what we've done for the past 10 years, and then put it in a slide show. Are you serious? Thanks, but no thanks.

I don't mean to come off as an embittered alumna. Really. I just don't do well in reunion-type situations, especially when I know the majority of the ladies in attendance are going to be the ones that I had absolutely nothing in common with back then (and I highly doubt we will have the same interests now). And again, I wish them all well and I hope they have a jolly good time and get to reminisce and take a stroll down memory lane together. And if I happen to see them outside the reunion setting, I will be nothing but nice, friendly, and even suggest a cup of coffee. However, the whole concept of reunions feel contrived, forced, and quite frankly, very uncomfortable. Who's married? Who's still single? Who's had a baby? Who's lost/gained weight? Simply put, it's just not. for. me.

Aaaaaaaaaaand! As luck would have it, my sister-in-law is slated to get married on that same day. So there. At least it's a legitimate reason for my absence!

Did you ever go to your high school reunion? Do you think I'm being ridiculous in holding my ground in not going? What is your opinion of them?






PHOTO COURTESY OF: A KNITTER FROM THE PAST

 
 
 
 

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  • sookie said... Reply To This Comment
    11.5.10
    If you really want to know what's up with people you knew in school 10 years ago, no need to go to a reunion. Just check on facebook! Don't need to see them in person and have a superficial conversation! (and it's free) :)
  • CLGJr said... Reply To This Comment
    11.5.10
    i think you know my thoughts on this dilemma. no way would i pressure you to attend--especially with the severe conflict of interest on my part!--but my experience with reunion #10 was quite positive. and since those boys happened to be linked to your girls, AND since they were arguably worse in high school than your classmates, AND the worst of the worst changed for the better . . . you never know!
  • Kate said... Reply To This Comment
    11.5.10
    I was just about to say the same think Sookie :) My graduating class was full of slackers like me... not enough people responded to the invite so they didn't even have it. Class reunions made more sense before Facebook
  • VBtk said... Reply To This Comment
    11.5.10
    i didn't go to my 10-year reunion. instead, i visited whalen in NYC, where we made it to the championship game of the manhattan branch of the citywide bocce tournament. considering that whalen and i went to the same high school, i felt like that was reunion enough.
  • 11.5.10
    I actually homeschooled through high school so I don't even have a reunion to think about. I'm glad though because I wouldn't go. I don't like huge crowds, I don't do well making small talk with people I don't have much in common with and well, it's just not for me. I say good for you for standing your ground!
  • brooke said... Reply To This Comment
    25.5.10
    So true! Facebook is the ultimate high school reunion!

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